Before we talk about menopause let’s backtrack a bit because my body spent years trying to get my attention and I’ll bet yours has too. My journey started in my 20s when I began suffering from Crohn’s (a type of inflammatory bowel disease). The doctor prescribed a calmer life – easier said than done. What I didn’t realise is that my lower chakras (energy centres in the body) were blocked causing imbalance and dis-ease.
In my early 30s, I had a second warning. This time my upper chakras were blocked resulting in Glandular Fever. And I was recovering with two small children who didn’t understand the months of fatigue. My needs were low on my list of priorities, I felt overwhelmed, neglected my self-care, and was pulled in different directions. It was a slog. Washing the dishes was exhausting and I definitely didn’t have any energy for taking the kids to the park or even having a bath at the end of the day.
My recovery began when I started to prioritise myself. I began to explore yoga, meditation, and mindfulness. I studied Reiki and discovered Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping) through my doctor. But it was hard to stick with it – I didn’t have a supportive space where I could talk about “spiritual things” – many people reacted negatively. And I still hadn’t discovered the mindset work that would shift everything and create lasting change.
So, at 42 I visited my doctor. I was exhausted, night sweats had left me sleep-deprived and irritable. Only to be told I was too young to be perimenopausal. When you’re exhausted and low you don’t always have the energy to question the advice you’re given but I knew he was wrong. And I trusted my intuition enough to keep looking.
Eventually, I visited an alternative doctor, I was emotional by the time I reached his office and he wondered if I was depressed. But I knew my body, I just needed sleep. He helped and within weeks I felt like a different woman! My mindset was starting to shift but there was still so much work to do.
My 40s were transformational. I escaped a toxic marriage and my self-discovery began at a retreat with meditation, mindset, and Qi-Gong! This sparked an interest in spirituality and I discovered oracle cards, crystals, and working with the moon. I was determined to avoid a hat trick of auto-immune disease.
With support, I dealt with my inner critic (you know that voice that says you’re never enough or you’re too much or you don’t deserve to be healthy, happy, loved), improved my mindset and my self-belief returned. I see my inner critic as a teacher now and I love to flip her script. I’ve surrounded myself with a community of people who support me, reinforce my self-belief, and cheer me on. I feel motivated, balanced, and ready to take on the world! I’m expanding and feeling more aligned than I have in years…this time spirituality is going nowhere!
I want to make a difference, so my mission is to help overwhelmed, menopausal women not to survive but to THRIVE!!!
If you’re looking for a safe place to talk about menopause, explore what’s been missing in your life, and dip your toes into meditation, mindfulness, and mindset work, wherever you are on your journey you’re welcome here…